Tuesday, 17 May 2011

In Loving Memory




Today marks an important anniversary so thank you to everyone who's ever visited, written, emailed or commented on my blog over the past year, your friendship and support kept me sane through a difficult time.


Despite my love for vintage clothes I'm not one to live in the past. I don't have regrets or waste time wishing things had turned out differently.


Obstacles, misfortunes and difficulties make us who we are and shape our personalities. What I've lived through has made the person I am today and I'm truly happy to be me.

My beautiful mother, Jenni (14th October, 1942 - 17th May, 2010)

Mum was a firm believer in "no regrets" so today won't be a day of sadness, it's a day of celebrating the relationship we were lucky to share for forty-three years of my life. I'll be raising a glass to her later.


Vintage maxi (my dear friends, Helga and Sarah), bag (jumble sale), Flower corsage (handmade by Sarah)


Here's to you all, my dear friends.

106 comments:

Kim said...

And here's to you darlin - and to your Mum. Cheers indeed xxx

viviane / hippiebohoreloaded. said...

a really wise post, my dear! really true! I think this is a very good philosophy for life. Hope you have a good day with warm and happy memories :)

Scarlett Fontaine said...

Vix, this post brought a tear to my eye! Totally with you on no regrets, Im glad today is a day of celebration, you mum looks stunning in the picture, thats where you get your fabulousness from! My dad died 13 years ago on the 5th of May and I see it as a day to celebrate how great he was rather than be sad. Always have a blast of Johnny Cash for him. Here's to your mum, Scarlett x

CarolineGsbM said...

Celebrating someone's life is the best way to remember them.

Caroline
xxx

jen wardle said...

xoxo

Tanvi said...

To you and your Mom! :) May there never be any regrets in your life ever!

♡ from © tanvii.com

Kandi said...

Here's to Jennie xxxxxx
Thinking of you today, hugs.
Kandi x

DearHelenHartman said...

The best tribute to a good mother is a remarkable daughter. You are a tribute to you mom every day - warm thoughts on this anniversary.

MyStyle said...

Hi my dear-thinking of you and heres to your mum too, she spoke wise words and I feel honoured to own the snake set you sent me which belonged to her too, I'll treasure this and have so enjoyed wearing it, lots of love to you xxxx

Lakota [Faith Hope and Charity Shopping] said...

Lots of love to you today Vix, you're doing a fine job of keeping your mum's memory alive. She looked like a super stylish lady - that's obviously where you get it from.

xxx

Misfits Vintage said...

Big Big Love to you Vix. I shall wear Jenni's beautiful mood ring tomorrow in her memory.

(You look amazing in that frock and I could not adore that bag more. And thank you for accessorising with that silly little flower!)

With all my love every day and especially today, Sarah xxx

Kitty said...

This really brought tears to my eyes Vix, esp. as my mother was rushed to hospital earlier tonight (we don't know why yet). The first post I ever read of yours was the one where you were showing what you were wearing to your mothers funeral, better to have had a great mother for a short time than a crap one for a long time. Thinking of you.xx.

trashsparkle said...

A lovely post to commemorate your mum with. She sounds like she was an amazing woman. Here's to Jenni, and to you. xx

Penny Dreadful said...

Big hug to you Vix xxx

Kitty said...

Thanks darl.xx.

Sophie said...

A big cyber hug to you. On days like this a life really should be celebrated, its just how our loved ones would have wanted it.
Sophie
x

The Brunette said...

Big hugs to you.
This brought a tear to my eye.
Your mum was so glam just like you.

Thinking of you
Lisa-Jane xx

Fran x said...

Such a lovely post
Sending you love and hugs
xx

jaljen said...

What a crackin' glamourpuss your mum was. You must be so proud of her.

Ivy Black said...

Here's to you too, lovely. I'll be raising a glass to you and your mum.
I agree with your sentiments...life is for living not filling with regrets.xxx

Dash said...

What a lovely tribute to your Mum, you raise that glass and have a lovely evening.
XXX

Pink Poppy said...

Vix what a lovely post today. Your posts really mean something and always make me think.
You are such an inspirational lady Vix.
Sending hugs to you.
Dx

Bex said...

Lots of love and hugs for you today, Vix xo

Jazzabelle said...

here is to you and your mum, vix! what a beautiful post, i can't believe it has been a year. xxx

YvonneSedition said...

What a lovely post, I'm sure your mum would be so proud of you. Now I see where you get your style, she looked quite the fox! xx

daisychain said...

Oh Vix,
this post bought tears to my eyes. You are simply incredible, your Mum must be looking down on you and bursting with pride x

The Vintage Knitter said...

You're so right about not living in the past, Vix, and that our trials and tribulations make us the people we are.

Thinking of you today and sending love and virtual hugs.

xxx

Pearl Westwood said...

Beautiful post Vix her is to you and your dear mum xxx

Ofelia said...

Sending you my love and positive thoughts as well as a toast with a Guinness later on tonight!
No regrets is the best way to live ones life; it's something I have to learn with time.
All we have is right now we can't change the past no matter how much we'll like to and no matter how much we plan for or wish for we can't predict or create our future.
Right now you look beautiful and you were very lucky to had a lovely relationship with your mother before she pass.
Con Mucho Amor,

Ronnie Rabbit said...

You look lovely and I'm sure your mum will think so too, enjoy your drink and toast her life :)

Jennifer Fabulous said...

I'm always mesmerized when you post photos of your mom. She was gorgeous and you're so, so lucky that her beauty was passed on to you.

I love that you celebrate her life, because that is actually what we should do for our loved ones. She was a fabulous, beautiful woman and believe me, there are too few of those in the world. :)

Love you!

Louise said...

And to you my lovely. My thoughts are with you. I think your mum must have been a wonderful person because you are fab. I love that photo of you as a child and your mum. Take care xx

madders83 said...

Hear hear....in the words of Edith Piaf - Non, je ne regrette rien. Hope you've had a lovely day so far reminiscing. xx

That's Not My Age said...

Cheers to you and to your gorgeous mum, Jenni. Love the dress - the leg 'o' mutton sleeve is my favourite silhouette!

Cara said...

"I don't have regrets or waste time wishing things had turned out differently." Vix, you inspiring you really are <3 Cheers to you, your amazing blog and your beautiful mum!

x x x

LaaLaa said...

I rememeber it well as it was the first day that I found your blog. Here's to Jennie. xxxx

CameronPoe2409 said...

Such a lovely post, you look the spitting image of your mum, sending you much love xxx

Shabby said...

i'm sure your mom is raising her glass to you too!

E is for Eleanor said...

A beautiful memoriam and wise words about living in the past. xx

Rose&Bird said...

Wise words from you and Jenni x

Eeek said...

So sorry to hear that you lost your mum a year ago. Wise words. and a nod to who was clearly a very stylish lady - love the photo! xxx

Love, Love, Love said...

You have a great outlook on both your life and you mum's life; a long and happy life should certainly be cause for celebration even if that person cannot celebrate with us today.
I was down in Totnes at the weekend and it was lovely to see a group of people sat down by the river together, sharing food and laughter. It was clear that how much money they did or did not have was not important to them and they looked truly happy.
There is much to be learnt from them and from lovely people such as yourself xxxx

Straight Talking Mama! said...

That's the best way to see life, even when things are tough they make us who we are!!

I'm raising a glass to your mum now

Comtesse de ferveur said...

And here's to you, Vix, for bringing such joy and fun into everyone's lives. Your Mum had the right attitude, I'm sure she was proud to have passed it on to you xxxxx

Perdita said...

Such true words- regrets are so wasteful and sad.

I'm raising a glass to you and yours too. x

tralala said...

Here's to you and your Mum, Vix xxx

Alice said...

Here's to your beautiful Mum, may her spirit and beauty forever live on in you Vix. A mother and daughter relationship is always such a special one xxx

Cup Of Kitten Tea said...

Heres to your Wonderful Mother who has made you a relly wonderful Lady with such fantastic outlook on life xxx

sacramento said...

I agree with you a 100%: Obstacles, misfortunes and difficulties make us who we are and shape our personalities. What I've lived through has made the person I am today and I'm truly happy to be me.
:Much love , my dear Vix.
My mother died in a car crash, too.
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Annie xx TheFeltFairy said...

Here's to you and your amazing mum, I am sure she will join you in raising your glass!

You have a wonderful attitude to life and this has been passed down from your mum! You have shared bits and bobs of your mum, her fab jewels and her attitude to life with us often and I think we have all grown to be fond of her!

Sending love x

pastcaring said...

Ah Vix, a sad day but one full of great memories too, I'm sure. You are testamament to the fact Jenni was obviously a wise and stylish woman, she brought you up right, to be the woman you are.

No one's life is immune from loss and sadness, however things look from the outside, but those experiences have something to teach us about ourselves and the world.
Raise your glass, and I'll be thinking of you both.
Curtise x

Helga! said...

A massive glass raised indeed to you AND your wonderful,gorgeous Mum,darling.You look perfect for a day of celebrating her fabulousness!You rock that frock like no other!The jewllery is sublime and I'm adoring that handbag,it's enhanced with sarah's divine corsage!!
LOVE YOU TO BITS!
XXXXxxXXXxxxXXXxxxXXX
Helga

SabinePsynopsis said...

I still remember the sad news and how gracefully you dealt with the situation. I'm sure your mum would be incredibly proud of you for bringing us so much joy and creativity. xxx

Rebecca said...

What a wonderful way to honor your mother - no regrets, cherishing the memories, living joyfully.

WeShop said...

You have such an inspiring attitude and outlook on life. Thinking of you this evening. xx

Veshoevius said...

I'm raising a sherry to the memory of your Mum too - thank you for sharing a photo of her with us.

thoughts running through my head.... said...

your posts elsewhere about your Mom is how I found your blog, you are definitely carryng her memory on by the sound of it. x

wardrobeexperience said...

i raise a glass of champagne to you and your mum.
she seemed to be a very positive person - so are you.

Kimberellie said...

You are lovely. And my thoughts and prayers are with you today. My mother just passed away last weekend...and I haven't blogged since because I wanted to write something fitting. I remember what you wrote about your mom and how touching and beautiful it was and what a sense it gave of her as a person. And I want to write something like that. But it may take awhile before I am ready!

But yes, you are lovely!

heart: K

VainGlorySinner said...

Here's to your mum for bringing such a lovely person into the world! I can definitely see a lot of her in your face! Both very beautiful!

Bloody love your dress! I'd love to see you in a black and white version!

Sending lots of love your way! xxx

delia hornbook said...

aawww sweetie i am raising my glass with you right now ( pimms is in my hand) You are a truly beautiful person with a very special and warm soul. Love your dress today. Big hugs, dee xx

Miss Rayne said...

Here's to you and your happy memories, been indulging in a few today, myself at a family funeral.
(a few sad ones too)

simplyvintage said...

Raising a glass to you and your beautiful mum in celebration of all you shared. xxx

Jen said...

Sending lots of love and happiness your way, Vix. Cheers to you and your wonderful Mum. x

Seabright said...

She was obviously a wonderful woman. Keep living a wonderful life & you know she'll be proud of you

Nelly said...

You look gorgeous in that dress VV and your mum would be so proud of the person you are,

Little Blue Mouse said...

Here's to you and your Mum.

I'm sure your Mum would love you in that dress today, you look great.

Christina @ Fashion's Most Wanted said...

Dearest Vix, I shall raise a glass to your wonderful mum.

I know I'd love her as much as I love you xxx

PS. You look beautiful

Dusk said...

Ahhh Vix.. much love to you... You are an incredible woman and your mother's fiesty spirit lives on in you. x

Shewearscrazywell said...

Very touching tribute. As I was reading I was totally sending you the biggest virtual hugs ever! It takes time to get used to loss. It takes even more time the bigger the loss. Your very dear to me...and I totally send you my love...and I adore your Mothers outlook. Hearts to my Dear Sweet Blog Friend, Janna Lynn

My Heart Blogged said...

Your Mother raised one heck of a woman. Here's to the both of you.

Miss Claire said...

Lovely words, Vix. How proud your Mum must have been of you. I'll be thinking of you and your mothers fabulousness today :)

Lots of Love xoxoxox

WendyB said...

Lovely tribute.

Smashingbird said...

and to you honey! much love. xxx

LadyBugSays ... said...

Lovely words Vix, I'm sure your Mum would love that you are thinking of all the happy memories you shared x

Amie K said...

You're such an inspiration Vix. Your mum would be so proud.

Lovely post; sending you loads of love xxxxxx

Filipa said...

Vix, my thoughts are with you. You're such an amazing woman, and your approach to the world it truly inspirational.

bibbitybob said...

What a lovely post, your Mum looked to be a beautiful lady xx

(I had a dream that we met last night...you were running a vintage shop, except you were blonde, and Mr BB was rolling his eyes because we were talking animatedly about blogging!!)

Make Do Style said...

Oh Vix much love to you on your Mum's anniversary. It is never easy and none of us can ever be prepared xx

Rebecca said...

Here's to your lovely mum, my thoughts are with you. Such lovely words, I admire the way you live your life so much xx

dinoprincesschar said...

I am in awe of how strong you are Vix! Lots of love xx

Rachel - Firebird said...

Love to you Vix, enjoy the memories you have of your Mum xx

Miss Peregrin said...

Here's to you & your gorgeous Mum. I truly love the way that you see the world, and I hope that one day I will be as wise as you.

P.S. LOVE the maxi dress.

Alison Cross said...

Vix - no regrets is a wonderful philosophy to have. Thinking of you and your lovely mum today.

lots of love

Ali x

Franca said...

what a great attitude you have, so great to davour all the memories! xx

Alexandra Mason said...

A lovely post Vix xxx

charl said...

hope your day went ok.. first anniversarys of things such as this must be so hard.. hope you are feeling ok..
your mum sounds like she was a great woman and its a great attitude to have that you can focus on the times and relationship that you were able to share together

sweet dress to.. colour looks great on..
thanks for the colour tip for my dresser.. i love powder blue im gong to have to get the tester pots out!!

charl
x

Lee Oliveira said...

Gorgeous vintage dress.. I love the stripes.
Your bag is fabulous too
Lee x

Mrs Bossa said...

Lots of love to you, Vix. I'm so glad you had a lovely relationship with your mum, and you can enjoy your happy memories. xxx

Sarcastic Bastard said...

I will toast to your dear mum, too! I love you so.

SB

Em x said...

A lovely personal post. Sending my love to you x

Alex said...

Very beautifully put Vix. Even though I never met her, I'll always think of her when I put on that bracelet. And of you and your lovely generous nature, which I'm sure came from her too.

Young at Heart said...

beautiful thoughts and a beautiful address x

Please may I? said...

Life is a whole heap of memories and the best ones are always of the ones you love.

So to remember is not to dwell on the past but to be thankful. As you say, life made us who we are, through the good and the bad. But life wouldn't have been anywhere near as exciting if not for the people we met along the way, those who gave us life, hope, strength, laughter and tears.

So I shall raise my glass of orange juice (well it it first thing in the morning!)to all of the above and a special toast for your mom.

Much love hun.

X X

Amy (Blighty Boutique) said...

Beautiful pic of your mum. We can all see where you got your great style from! x

Pull Your Socks Up! said...

Vix, I'm so happy to see you in such a fabulous frock on such a significant day. I lift my cuppa to you my lovely friend - chink and cheers. You are a credit to your mother. Lots of love, Desiree xoxoxoxox

Fashion, Art and other fancies said...

I first stumbled upon your blog on the same day you posted about your mama's death. I, too, raise a glass to you both.

You are such a creative being - you mama has blessed us with you. She lives on through you. Thank you for being such an inspiration to us all. XXXXXX

the Citizen Rosebud said...

I am reading this late, but for me right on time. The 25 anniversary of the death of my high school best friend was yesterday, and I try to focus on the things I'm grateful for during that time. So what a wonderful read to see you honor your mum! xo. Bella Q

Lucy said...

You're so like her Vix :) Lovely positive and inspirational post, remember the good times xxx

Mimi and Tilly said...

Sending love and light to you across the miles, Vix. I'm so sorry for your loss a year ago, and am thinking of you and your mum today. I was just about to pour myself a gin and tonic with ice. I'll go and do it and drink to your lovely mum. xx

bollywoodstylediaries said...

Here's to you too!! So lucky to have found you in this whole wide web:-)

Judith said...

Thank you for sharing your experience of the first year following your beloved mother's death. You always inspire me with your outfits and your adventures.

Cloud of Secrets said...

She lives on -- in your memory, in your loving and thought-provoking words and photographs here, and now in our minds.

I think it's okay to live in the past from time to time, to remember it richly, and then to record it and share it so the good parts thrive. Just as you've done.

I'm so glad to have gotten to know you over the past year, Vix, you and your fascinating finds and colorful world and deep wisdoms!

pip a la chic said...

Lots of hugs and kisses coming from Australia for you! xxx

vint junky said...

Aw, and here's to you miss Vix and to your momma for bringing up such a wonderful and wise young lady.

I can't believe it's a year already. Thinking about you xxx

diary obscura said...

I just discovered your blog, and as a fellow vintage loving, thrift shop addicted, bohemian Sagittarian girl, I think I adored you at first sight! I too lost my mother and very best friend five years ago. It's still something I deal with everyday, but with love and wonderful memories. Hugs and love to you <3.