Thursday, 22 December 2022

Working for the Rat Race


Back in the dark days of corporate whoredom, by the end of this week I'd have organised two thousand Xmas dinners, over a hundred buffets and supervised a handful of outside events at the partners' swanky country estates, having broken up numerous fights in the kitchen, dealt with my chefs' histrionics & tantrums and fended off the advances of the drunken letches for whom I catered. I'd have spent the following week either half-dead or dead drunk. Never a day goes by when I don't get out of bed and thank my lucky stars I had the courage to escape the rat race. I still love a drink but the stress, which often induced me to drink myself into a stupor, got stuffed years ago (along with the Xmas turkey).


 At 6am on Monday morning the thermometer was reading 12°C and after days of dressing in all of the layers, a Miss Polly by Polly Peck 1960s maxi dress and a vintage fringed waistcoat (with a suede jacket over the top) was enough for a walk down to the baths. My heel tip fell off on the way into town but, unusually, there wasn't a queue at the cobblers and he was able to repair them whilst I stood in my socks.


After a half-mile swim, a 'Spoons Mushrooms Benedict breakfast and a tazz around the chazzas we did a bit of grocery shopping on the way home, spending £1.50 on a Lidl Waste Not box and 45p on a bumper pack of wonky peppers reduced to clear in the Co-op. Big shop for Xmas? Not on your life! That's for normal people, I'll never be one of them.



On Tuesday I was knocked for six by the news of Terry Hall's untimely death. For those of us who grew up in the post-industrial wasteland that was Thatcher's Britain, he was the voice of our generation. I've seen The Specials on multiple occasions, most recently at Cornbury in 2019 and at Beautiful Days just a matter of weeks ago, where Jon filmed the video above.


With deliveries due, I spent the day at home, crocheting whilst listening to 6Music with so many moving tributes to both Terry Hall and to Martin Duffy, a member of Primal Scream and formerly with Felt and The Charlatans (after Jon's time) when Liz and I saw them supporting Oasis at the legendary Knebworth gig in 1996. That's an early selfie taken on the day, 28 years ago!


I crocheted a tank top and finished a skirt I'd started at the weekend.  I got lucky finding some quality wool in a charity shop last week at a bargainous 50p a ball, normally it's all 100% acrylic and in horrible wishy-washy colours. The teal glitter yarn I've used in the tank top is particularly fab.


I wore an embroidered Ayesha Davar cheesecloth maxi with a me-made crochet tank top over the top. I'm so used to wearing hats, I'm starting to think I look strange without one.


There's a new series of the wonderful Vienna Blood currently on the BBC I-player. We watched the second episode on Tuesday night. The British-Austrian psychological thriller series is set in Austria in the early 1900s and the costumes, the female cast's updos and the Art Nouveau interiors are a visual feast. 


On Wednesday we picked up Liz for a day of charity shopping, calling into the Oldbury branch of Wetherspoons, The Court of Requests, for lunch.  Built in 1816, the grade II listed building, served as a Court of Requests, a magistrates court, a police station and a library until being bought and refurbished by Wetherspoons in 2012. 


We tried out the new salad menu, Liz and I had haloumi and roasted veg (with a pint of lager each) and Jon had chicken and bacon with a non-alcoholic beer before heading back to Liz's for a catch-up with Al, a couple of her homemade mince pies and a present swap.


Later we watched the BBC documentary, The Hacienda - The Club That Shook Britain, where Lord Jon was a permanent fixture back in the Madchester era. An excellent watch if you disregard the appearance of rent-a-gob Noel Gallagher, it's doubtful that he ever set foot in the place.


On Thursday I overslept and it was a mad rush to make tea before tuning into English Heritage's live feed to watch the sunrise over Stonehenge along with thousands of others across the world. We went for our last swim of the year (the baths are closed next week) before a 'Spoons breakfast and, with yet another mild day, I didn't need too many layers, just a vintage Indian cotton block printed Phool dress, cashmere wristwarmers and this new-to-me suede cape over the top.


When I spotted what was listed as a "hunting cape" (a new one on me, too!) on eBay last weekend with a Buy-it-Now price of £6 I thought I was seeing things and pressed the buy button in a mad panic. Despite the postal strikes, our postie Izzy delivered it just three days later. Although some of our post has been in the system for over a fortnight everything we've been expecting arrived eventually including these two 1970s suede suits I bought for my birthday....


I did buy the orange one for stock but I made the mistake of trying it on and now it's in my wardrobe!


This week's charity shop finds have proved to be a somewhat monochromatic-looking affair apart from the 1960s rainbow suede belt. There's some unworn Keith Haring baseball boots, a 1980s blingy belt (made in Italy), a vintage Kangol angora hat, a 1950s Scottish cashmere and wool reversible scarf, a military-inspired waistcoat, a 1980s fake fur, a St Michael velvet shawl collar coat (which looks like it's come straight out of Stevie Nicks' wardrobe and is sadly far too big for me), an embellished bugle beaded cocktail top, two unworn 1980s St Michael "Pure British Wool" cardis, a 1990s Monsoon angora cardi with a rhinestone button and an unworn DKNY 100% linen waterfall cardi.


After a quick blog catch-up I'm going to spend the afternoon crocheting with Tinker Tailor Solider Spy to keep me company. I'm not sure how many times I've seen this - or the original TV series with Alec Guinness - but I never get tired of it, it's a cold war masterpiece.

Lord Jon and I have a day out planned for tomorrow, I'll be back with tales of adventure very soon!

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  1. I'm not quite 'normal' enough to have done a big shop for Christmas but I have somehow managed to do far too many 'slightly bigger than little' shops. I blame Alan and his need for company on every shop he's been doing. I go along for the ride and end up putting yet another bag full of food in the boot of his car.

    I don't know how you coped with that level of catering, and pandering to the rages of that many chefs, a single 'normal' restaurant kitchen seems too manic for me. At least you survived ... and then escaped.

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    1. Ha! Jon's the opposite of Alan, he loves to shop alone so he can sneak in jumbo packs of crisps and boxes of biscuits, I have to give him a stern talking to before he leaves the house.
      The catering years were insanely stressful, I was a zombie by the end. xxx

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  2. So glad your ultra-cold temps have passed, Vix! Love your fun outfits - that suede fringed vest, the gorgeous "hunting" cape (lol). I'm amazed at the two suede suits - I'm glad you kept that rust one for yourself! It's fabulous.

    Sad to read about Terry Hall - I'll put my Specials CD on this week for him. You and Liz look fab at your 'Spoons (I wish we had them here!) - I love you've been friends for so long!

    Have a great week, my friend, and Happy Holidays to you!

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    1. Thanks, Sheila! I've gone a bit overboard on suede lately. There suddenly seems to be loads out there, those two suits are in perfect condition, too - I think they must have been so expensive when they were originally purchased the owner was afraid to wear them - sad for her, brilliant for me.
      I was so upset about Terry Hall, he was an absolute legend and a fellow Midlander, too.
      Much love to you! xxx

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  3. My corporate whoredom was not as bad as yours but like you, I have never regretted the day I said "enough" and stepped off the hamster wheel.

    I thought of you both on Tuesday when I heard the news about Terry Hall and Martin Duffy, as you say - the voices of our generation.

    Your 'big Christmas shop' made me laugh, it looks very similar to mine. Have a lovely day out tomorrow, xx

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    1. Hello Jayne! Isn't it wonderful to have escaped from that relentless hamster wheel? I don't think I'd still be here if I hadn't had the guts to walk away.
      It's not often I'm touched by the passing of someone famous but Tuesday knocked me for six especially having only danced and sung along to The Specials a few weeks ago.
      I'm sure Jesus never told his followers to bankrupt themselves in Morrisons and eat their bodyweight in cheese and chocolate in front of the telly. xxx

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  4. I too am so glad I quit my last job. Now I invigilate at the local university throughout the year. I absolutely love the camaraderie of the invigilating team and it adds some very welcome money to my bank account. We've not bothered with a big Christmas shop this year but I think we've eaten our combined weight in mince pies. I had a crocheted tank top very similar to yours when I was fifteen. You've taken me back to my misspent youth. X

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    1. One of my friends does the same as you and really enjoys the work and the team she works with.
      I haven't had a mince pie in years until yesterday, I can see why you'd get addicted to them!
      I know Mum crocheted me a poncho when I was little but I don't think I ever had a tank top, I was a deprived child obviously! xxx

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  5. I have never regretted leaving the corporate world. When I was made redundant I went for a job where I got down to the last 2 of 400 candidates. I didn't get the job because I didn't have recent enough corporate experience....what a lucky escape. I hated every moment I spent in it. What was I thinking!! So I became my own boss and have cleaned people's houses ever since. Like you I was very saddened by Terry Hall's death. He was ahead of his time with his anti racism and championing of mental health issues. Arilx

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    1. You did have a lucky escape. I never wanted my career but was flattered when I was headhunted and didn't have the heart to say no especially as so few women back in the 1980s were given the opportunity that I was. Both the stress and knowing I was living a lie nearly destroyed me.
      Ghost Town must be one of the best songs ever written and walking through the streets of Walsall today, those Thatcher-era lyrics couldn't be more true. RIP Terry. xxx

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  6. Totally understand that feeling of relief every time you tell about that corporate world!, I feel something similar every time I remember the times when I tried to be normal and have a career (which almost drove me crazy). So much better to live your own life your own way!
    Also lovely to see that the weather is warmer and you've been wearing some fab maxi dresses, cute waistcoats and lots of fantastic suede pieces!. Wow, the cape is a fab piece but the orange suit totally stole my heart!. And you're mastering crochet tops, love some colourful and cute pieces!
    As my parents will come home and my mom is completely 'normal' concerning food shopping for Xmas, we have emptied our fridge!. I've developed some strategies to deal with mom's overconsumption!.
    besos

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    1. Some of us were never destined to be normal, were we? Thank goodness we broke away and learnt that it was okay not to have to fit in.
      After that freakishly cold weather last week, I'm almost embracing the gloomy skies and rain. Now we've celebrated the Winter Solstice the days are gradually getting longer and the light is coming back. I was very excited about the orange suit!
      Jon's Mum was just like yours, I'd rather have a half-empty fridge and a wardrobe full of clothes! xxx

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  7. Urgh, I've never been in the corporate world ever! I've only ever worked in primary or higher education (plus a little spell temping for the NHS). Much as a bonus would be lovely (never had one, never will), I don't think I would have survived in it.
    I like your tanktop- the teal glitter wool is glorious!
    The cape is pretty cool!
    Are you off for your Christmas day curry? I enjoyed my year when I ate rice for Christmas dinner in Bali!x

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    1. Far better to stay away from the corporate world, Kezzie. It's a cruel place where money is far more important than people and the more powerful the person, the more they could get away with. It still makes me shudder.
      Isn't that teal wool fab? I got a ball of ruby glitter wool, too. I hope the festival goers like my tank tops!
      Originally we were going for a Greek meal as the Indian we always went to on Xmas day closed down during the pandemic, but Jon got a message on Wednesday night telling us that they'd had to cancel all the bookings as the kitchen had burnt down. Luckily there's an Indian in town with a free table so yes, it's curry for dinner! xxx

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  8. That luscious velvet shawl collar coat really appeals to me as a house coat. We're having a blizzard with record wind-chills, and everyone (including the atheists) is praying we don't lose power. Pity the folks with those sliding glass doors and fashionably thin curtains! Moi, I admire those handy draft-breaking drapes on rods you Brits hang over your doors! (Are the new windows working as well as hoped?)

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    1. Your weather's making headline news here, Beth. It sounds and looks horrific, stay safe, Beth! That's a great idea about wearing the velvet coat as a dressing gown, it'd work well belted!
      The windows (and door) were brilliant investments, upstairs is so warm now and I've dispensed with the draught excluder and velvet curtain over the front door as there's no longer a gap underneath it! xxx

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  9. Your old job sounds exhausting, your current job is a lot better! And you definitely have the eye for style! The crocheted crops are such a great idea to not hide your dresses under a longer jumper!

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    1. Thanks you so much, Laura. I still have dreams - or should I say nightmares? - where I'm back at work and can't leave, urgh!
      Regular jumpers spoil the line of a dress, don't they? A cropped tank top keeps my back warm and allows the frock to flow! xxx

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  10. My dad was a food distributor and yeah, Christmas really wasn't the "Most wonderful time of the year" for us. I'm glad you got away from the corporate horrors.People working in kitchens really do suffer especially at Christmas/New Years.
    That orange suede set is great-I can see not wanting to let it go.

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    1. That song's such a joke, it couldn't be a worse time for anyone involved in catering, retail or delivering post and parcels, could it? It seems to bring out the worst in some people making them even more obnoxious than usual!
      The suede suit is such a lovely colour - and a good fit - I'm not sure how I'll wear it yet but I shall thing of something! xxx

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  11. I was so sad when I heard that terry hall had died and I was sad when I heard that Ruth Maddoc had died as well as I grew up with hi di hi (yes it was annoying ) but my mum loved it and the specials my dad loved a bit of ska .
    I have done a bit of charity shopping but nothing exciting like yours!! My mum forgot I was a vegan and she now has to rush out and buy vegan food!! I hate Xmas. I wish I was back in Tokyo were it is just another day. We didn’t even put out tree up!! Love and hugs Allie

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    1. I used to watch Hi-De-Hi with my Grandpa, he loved it. Ruth Madoc was fab, her death through a fall was very sad news.
      The Specials were amazing and I loved Fun Boy Three and the Colourfield, too. They were part of my youth. Ghost Town could be Walsall, today.
      The charity shops have been very hit and miss this week unless it's me and my Xmas hating mood which is attracting me to all the black clothing! Fancy your mum forgetting you were vegan! We were supposed to go for a Greek meal but the restaurant kitchen burnt down on wednesday (maybe a stressed chef?) so we're off for a Xmas Day curry instead. I hope you survive the stress. xxx

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  12. I escaped the corporate world in 1993 and never returned. Our 29 year old son came back to live with us in October escaping a London rent that doubled overnight and a landlord that then issued his household of five people a section 21 notice. He continued his London design agency job commuting from here for a month but it soon become untenable with the rail strikes and cost so he is now doing what you are doing Vix and turning a tidy profit. He specialises in high end outdoor wear which he buys online from individuals and then resells having photographed it rather beautifully. Occasionally I am called upon to be his anonymous model! Daughter escaped the rat race even earlier and now just does her own thing. Cannot wait for all this C-word madness to be over for another year. I absolutely loathe the greed, the waste, the tackiness of it all. On the other hand I love bringing in fresh greenery from the garden, singing carols and making and eating mince pies! Some gorgeous outfits as always. I would wear the rusty suede safari suit for sure. My eldest brother was a chef - he trained at Ealing college for two years and then had four years with the Savoy Group. He worked at some the top restaurants around the world but died in 2020 completely and utterly burnt-out. He and I loved Terry Hall’s music. Have a great day out today - looking forward to reading all about it. Sarah xx

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    1. Hello Sarah. Another rat race escapee! I wonder if we hadn't experienced such misery in our corporate lives we'd be so content with our lives now. It sounds like both your son and daughter have inherited your good sense and quit while they've still got their sanity. I'm appalled at how your poor son was treated by his landlord and delighted that his business is thriving. Maybe we'll be festival trader neighbours one day?
      I feel exactly the same as you about that "C" word, it's rammed down our throats from Hallowe'en, people are constantly stressed, rude and ill mannered and the amount of utter tat bought and binned over the festive period disgusts me. Yesterday, after a glorious National Trust visit I brought in the greenery, poured myself a sherry and played The Ramones, Merry Christmas (I don't want to fight tonight) on repeat.
      I'm so sad to read about your brother. At catering collage one of our lecturers told us that catering wasn't an old man's game, to save as much money as you could and to get out as soon as possible as you never saw an old chef. Wise words. xxx

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  13. I teeter between pagan and 'normal' my childhood family Christmas was a no present job with a tree in the garden that we put bacon rind on for the birds, milk bottle top decorations, paper chains on the ceiling, a box of milk tray and dates stuffed with marzipan plus white and pink coconut ice being the 'treats' we always got a knitted teddy with button eyes and a stocking (sock) which had a threepenny bit, chocolate cigarettes (replaced from age 13 by 10 no 6 - yep my mum was not conventional or rational and had no idea what was appropriate for a teenage girl so treated me like an adult) and a satsuma, maybe some hair clips and that's your lot. Nowadays I do the decs and we don't really 'do' presents but eat lots of good food and drink too much - I can't stand the cheap bling in the shops although I do have a fair bit of bimboms confined to the tree :) the chazza shops round here are dismal, they know their stuff and lock anything half good in a glass display case having priced it up on ebay and the rest is just not worthy of being on a hanger so I have given up on that for a while and bought some fabby East stuff in their 50% off sale :) ha ha. Have a lovely Christmas - Betty x

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    1. I loved reading about your childhood Xmases, Betty. I'd forgotten about the milk bottle top decorations, me and my brother made those, too! The chocolate cigarettes made me giggle. Mum bought me second hand copies of Peyton Place & Valley of the Dolls when I was ten, several of her friends commented about the suitability but she said I had to learn about life somehow!
      Spending time with loved ones and not filling the house with plastic tat and maxing out on the credit card sounds like a perfect Xmas to me. Oh yes, buying yourself some fabulous and fair traded clothes as a present is the best gift! xxx

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  14. I am largely ignoring Christmas this year, as much as is possible. I find it all too much. I am looking forward to catching up on books I want to read over the next few days. So very sad about Terry Hall. The Specials were fab. I loved The Beat back in the day and was sad to recently discover that Rankin Roger had died.
    Enjoy your Christmas Day curry. It will be a usual Sunday for me. Cheers!

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    1. Hello and cheers to you, my friend. Reading and ignoring Xmas sounds like an excellent plan. As someone said on social media the other day, Christmas comes but once a year and thank f*ck for that.
      Rankin' Roger was a regular in Tony's shop. He always said what a lovely man he was, another gone far too soon. Much love to you. xxx

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  15. That's cape's fab. And what a bargain!
    Looking forward to seeing those suede suits on you too.
    I was desperately saddened to hear about Terry. Quite apart from being part of my musical life, he was much too young. Really awful.
    I watched the sunrise at Stonehenge too. It's great that EH film it so so many people can watch together.
    As you know, we love Vienna Blood too. I'm having to eake it out. 🙂
    Xxx

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    1. Isn't that cape a bargain? It's so warm and also proved to be waterproof when I walked back from swimming on Thursday!
      Poor Terry Hall, I still can't believe he's gone. the last time I was upset about a celebrity was when Amy winehouse left us.
      We're trying to be good and haven't yet watched the final Vienna Blood. I don't want it to end, there's only three episodes! xxx

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  16. Looking fabulous in suede - I don't think I've ever seen a suede cape! Also can't believe I was completely ignorant to the fact that you could watch a live stream of Winter Solstice at Stonehenge. My pagan soul would have loved that.
    Lovely photo of you and Liz and my goodness, there are some impressive 'Spoons in the Black Country! It's been a sad week for music, but you have some great memories (and actually remembered to take photos at the time!)
    I caught the first episode of Vienna Blood but need to catch up. It's all or nothing isn't it? I'm beyond excited about the return of Detectorists. xxx P.S. Well done on the crochet tank top and skirt.

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    1. I'd never seen a suede cape before, maybe it's because we don't go hunting! Not that I'm proposing we take it up! Elaine's posted a link to the Solstice footage so, if you get up early over the next few days you can always pretend you're watching it live!
      Jon's so excited about the Detectorists, he's even written it on the kitch calendar.
      Check your spam, I left a comment on your blog and it seems to have vanished! xxx

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  17. Mum has been poorly so Christmas (and my birthday) have become very minimal this year. It has been rather nice. EH do all the solstice stuff and if you miss the 'live' you can catch up here https://www.english-heritage.org.uk/visit/places/stonehenge/things-to-do/solstice/
    Shocked to hear about the passing of Terry Hall - there was a very sad interview in the Guardian today with one of his bandmates - gone way too soon.

    Your corporate hell sounded desperate - I had 20-odd years working in Local Government - it was brilliant but latterly became absolutely soul-destroying watching things fall apart and horrendous decisions having to be made in the name of 'cost-efficiency'. It still upsets me to think about it.

    Crochet and suede seem to be a style-thing for you, Vix! I'm gothing about in velvet and revelling in glittery-frock season in the chazzers lol. Having said that, my score of the week was a beautiful dusty rose Donegal Tweed coat from Sands and Hall (I'd never heard of the name either). The owner has put her business on hold to concentrate on her daughters (wow!) https://www.facebook.com/sandsandhall/ - it's a gorgeous piece. I only paid £20 from BHF.

    Take care all xxxx

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    1. Good to hear from you, Elaine! Belated birthday love to you. I'm sorry to hear about your mum and hope she's on the mend now. What a worry.
      Thanks for the link to the Solstice, I shall tip Claire off as she'd missed it.
      My heart goes out to anyone working in local government, one of my school friends does and I know she feels utterly helpless sometimes.
      Great score on the Donegal Tweed. What a wonderfully generous gesture for the owner to donate her stock to charity, there really are some wonderful people about. I'm off to follow the link! xxx

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    2. Thanks Vix - birthday was quite stressful - but Mum is on the mend now.
      My lovely coat was an individual donation - not from Sands and Hall as far as I know - it had a dry cleaners ticket safety-pinned to the neck! I did think it was refreshing that the owner has chosen to put her family life before business - getting off the hamster wheel in her own way. I hope she comes back to it - her line is lovely - also tweed capes (swoon).
      When I left the LA I worked for there had been some dreadful cuts and consequences. It really, really upsets me when people think it's a doddle of a place to work and are only interested in their bins being emptied and dog shite. Me and my colleagues were very proud to serve the City we worked for and the people who lived there.
      And now I'm off to view your latest travelogue! Stay stylish xxxx

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  18. So sad to hear about Terry Hall indeed :-(
    Both the hunting cape and those 1970s suede suits are fabulous, and of course you needed to keep the orange one. Can't wait to see you wearing it!
    I'm not surprised you're thankful for having escaped the rat race. Your Xmas schedule sound thoroughly gruelling!
    No big shop for us either. Unfortunately Jos needed to go out to get something he forgot this morning, and it was pure madness! xxx

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    1. Poor Jos, braving the retail madness!
      I was so sad about Terry Hall (and still am now I know he died from the same horrible pancreatic cancer that killed my mum).
      I can't wait to wear those suits, so many clothes, so little time! xxx

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  19. I stepped off the conveyor belt - well more like I fell off and took about four years to recover - never again, never again!
    I had to go and watch and listen to all Terry Hall and the Special's videos - the sound of my teenage years xx

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    1. I'm so glad you escaped, too! I know you love the life you have now as much as I do. xxx

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  20. As a Cov kid growing up in the 80s I was brought up on a diet of The Specials, so was really sad to hear about Terry Hall. Such a nostalgic sound of my childhood. Sending you and Jon lots of warm wishes for Christmas. Xxx

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  21. Hello Vix, how cute do you & Liz look in that old picture! If it is any consolation - my brother punched Liam Gallagher when they were at school together. Not the kind of thing my brother is in the habit of doing, so just goes to show that Liam was annoying even back then! I must watch the Hacienda documentary, though Monsieur is worried I'll 'go all Manc again'. He was actually very sad when he heard the news of Terry Hall - as he's a Cov boy too. Great crocheting & great finds xXx

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  22. Those suede suits are fabulous - the orange one looks particularly jazzy.

    Working in hospitality pre-Christmas must've been an absolute nightmare. I'm not surprised you don't miss it!

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  23. Love the orange 1970s suede suit! What a find! X

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