Wednesday, 21 August 2013

Rock 'n' Roll Underachiever



Over the weekend we were part of an audience with Julian Cope, the former singer/songwriter from legendary Post-punk band, The Teardrop Explodes, and now a political & cultural activist, expert on Neolithic culture and occasional dabbler in the occult.


He's highly articulate, outrageously dressed and considered by many to be slightly mad but, on describing himself as a rock'n'roll underachiever, a person who doesn't give a toss about making it big, remaining true to who they are and living each day as it comes, I felt like he could have been describing me.

No sodding bucket lists, people-pleasing or whoring your arse for world domination.



Many people will see me as being slightly weird about not having some big life plan. After being pushed into a career I hated and fighting the subsequent depression it caused I've spent the last 14 years just being glad to be alive. I live within my means, sell vintage to pay the bills and as long as I can afford to travel and attend a handful of music festivals throughout Summer I'm happy for Kinky Melon to stay the two-bit enterprise it is.


I want for nothing, I don't endlessly trawl the internet looking at stuff I can't afford, subscribe to magazines that try to brainwash me into hankering after a wardrobe full of fashionable clothes with a shelf life shorter than a jar of jam and avoid blogs which post wishlists of unattainable stuff like a spoilt kid does at Xmas. If you want it just shut up, save for it and share it once you've paid for it.


I don't have a tick-list of things I need have accomplished before I reach some magical age. I don't consider myself a failure for never having skydived, juggled or bungee-jumped. I fill my time doing things I want to do, not stuff to impress others with.


I started my blog in 2009 as a creative outlet for the dialogue in my head, not for freebies, for fame or to be a poster girl for an alternative 40-plus/frugal lifestyle. The friendships I've made in the last four years are a wonderful and unexpected bonus. I'm still hugely touched that anyone reads my ramblings let alone bothers to leave a comment or to send an email.


I'd much rather receive a second-hand find from thoughtful fellow blogger (like Emma who spotted these additions to the Wall of Misery whilst at a car boot sale in France; the Hawaiian dress I'm wearing and the purple midi and brown maxi behind me from op-shopping queen, Linda in NZ and the charcoal Berketex maxi from lovely Lucy in Wales) rather than accept a handout to promote a company with dubious ethics.

It may sound boring but I'm happy as I am. If my life didn't change for the next 20 years I honestly wouldn't mind.

Honolulu-made 1970s midi dress worn with woven suede belt (Age UK, 50p, 2009), Bertie leather boots and Alpaca, Mexico silver choker (both from car boot sales) and a heap of silver jewellery from India

Cope reckons that an underachiever would make the most of being unexpectedly stranded on a desert island whereas overachievers (like his antithesis, U2) would be planning an immediate escape.

So, what would you do? Are you one of us?

Kinky Melon is off to the Upton Festival tomorrow, see you next week!

123 comments:

  1. Ohh, I really really loved this post. With the impending arrival of our bambino, I've been doing a lot of soul searching about what example we should set to the little one about avoiding coveting material things and being true to who we all are. Contentment with yourself is so much more important than contentment with possessions. I am rather jealous you got to hear all this from Mr Cope in person though.

    (I am also rather jealous of your beautiful Hawaiian maxi, It is a beaut. My bump hasn't fitted in to mine this summer. Next year my pretties, next year...)

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  2. If that's underachieving then let me join you :)

    You're fab xxx

    www.mancunianvintage.com

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  3. AMEN AMEN AMEN!!! You took the words out of my mouth.

    I blog because i like to and i've been blessed meeting so many fabulous folk all around the world. I could care less how many pageviews, followeres or such i have. i'm not monetizing it and i don't get free stuff from companies-i don't want it. not my thing at all.


    Gave up the stressful career I loved but was killing me for less money and stress and i'm happier for it.

    I love not keeping up with the Jones accumulating the latest stuff. Give me the thrifted, found and gifted and I'm happy.

    Your bed is FANTASTIC!!! i love the dress-the print is gorgeous and you look fabulous as always!

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  4. What you've said today really resonates with me - good on you, Vix, you're a real inspiration.

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  5. I really admire you for that and can guarantee your life doesn't sound boring at all. You're living the life! Being happy is what matters in life, there's no use having lots of money and material things if you're not happy. I've always had people saying I'm not going anywhere as I didn't go to Uni like all my school mates but I've always knew that what I want is not there and it would made me as miserable as school did. It's not for me. I've always believed that life should be lived and we have to make the best we can out of if because we only live once (as far as we can remember)! You're the living proof that we don't need a fancy job and a fat wallet to be happy, all we need to do is enjoy what we like and work for it. I don't mind having a simple part time job that gives me the money I need and the free time I want, it's a good balance and so far I'm happy this way! xxx

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  6. oh yes, i love your great attitude, living each day as it comes is one of my favorite mottos, hurrah for enjoying our lives without big life plans. I don't think about that kind of things anymore!!, I'm proud of my lack of ambition!!, my life plans are all about stay happy and enjoy a little outing or meeting with friends!!, that's my kind of big life plan!!
    love insanely your blog especially because it's a genuine expression and it makes me so happy that you share it with us!!!
    besos & enthusiasm!

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  7. He's considered slightly mad? I adore him already! XX

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  8. Well said that girl! Like you I've no bucket list or life plan, I just bumble along doing my own thing. I get hacked off with those who think one should always be pushing themselves further, personally and professionally. I also live fairly frugally and don't hanker after the next big thing in fashion/face creams/cars etc. My only debt is my mortgage which I'm overpaying in an attempt to retire early. You are anything but boring Vix....even if you haven't done a bungee jump! (which I have, but only cos I WANTED TO.) The Hawaiian maxi is heavenly.
    xx
    PS Dad will be pleased!

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  9. Once again, another brilliant post. As much as I love your outfit posts and catch ups about where you've been (and I do really love them), it's posts like these which make me so glad I stumbled across your blog.

    I can only hope to be as wise as you in 20 years time!

    Much vintage love <3
    xxx

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  10. No need for me to climb the mountain to look for the Secret to Life. All I have to do is visit my friend Vix and I am showered with sage advice, an abundance of beauty and a crystal clear point of view. <3

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  11. First of all, I love your wall art, your style and your blog. And this post? Forget about it! After a lot of time chasing the "dream" (bah!), I searched my soul and realized that I prefer underachievement to all else. Yes, I still hold a 9 to 5 and yes, I'm working to pay off debt, but I find myself desiring less and less and actually downsizing my life. Edging up on 50 is the best thing that's ever happened to me. I'm happiest sewing, reading, slogging it out on a mud run or in the boxing gym or pole dance studio, and searching for lovelies at the thrift stores and pawn shops. I'm selling off a lot of stuff because I don't know why I have it. Yes, I was definitely drinking the kool aid for a lot of years but it's just crap!

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  12. describes me to a T! I just hung a load of wash on the line, which I do regularly, much of it today the vintage dinner napkins that I get at the thrift stores and we use for every day. I love it when the wash makes for a pretty clothesline, and then I thought, is it weird that this sort of thing makes me so happy? NAH! I'm lucky!

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  13. I definitely am happy with my life now , I spent years working in the rat race trying to reach targets in my job and being bullied in the end out of a job I loved which resulted in two years of depression and lack of confidence in myself now I am happy with myself and my lifestyle living within my means and just being able to afford a couple of caravan holidays a year to me this is bliss xx

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  14. I had asked you for advice on how you maintained your life, and you responded so kindly in March, 3 days later I resigned. My work clothes were my motivation to make life bearable, I bought sale stuff endlessly. Ironically selling those damned things has kept us moving along nicely while I regained myself. I'm sill cheap (my kids say my 2 favourite words are 'free' and 'cheap') and I continue to be 'unique' (my mama's words!!)and I don't want anything either, I have ordered glasses as my current ones are battered, my kids are desperate for me to have a proper make up bag (I use a clear plastic bag!but I can see my stuff!)but I'm happy, ridiculous fecking happy, less money-don't care, bills are paid and kids are fed x I took a risk and it paid off in rainbows x thanks again! x

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  15. TOO FUCKING RIGHT!! Strangely enough, I agree with everything you say. I am very happy being who I am with what I have. I think too many lives are blighted because people are waiting for something to happen/get better or to become famous. If you want it, make it happen or just shut up I say. I too am a happy underachiever and I don't give a toss. I've had a nifty day at work, walked my dog who always makes me laugh, had some nice nosh, done a bit of impromptu Northern Soul dancing in the kitchen and am now singing along to a 1978 Top of the Pops!
    Bloody loves you.
    xxxxxxxxxx

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  16. Give me a simple stress free life anyday! I don't care what people think of my quiet little life, I'm actually living one I love!! Awesome post Vix!

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  17. Wonderful post - I love that you don't care what others think and are happy with 'enough'. Makes me feel better about the little I achieve each day x

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  18. Absolute words of wisdom.....Right now my Daddy is rapidly nearing the end of his time here on earth. As our family is so scattered we are all daily emailing him and each other photos from earlier times as a way of connecting and grounding him to help him (and us) on his way. "Strangely" not a one of us has emailed a photo of anything you could buy. You and Jon have a grand life.

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  19. You're very lucky to be able to have the confidence and the means to live exactly as you please. That's such a luxury in itself. It's only been in the last 5 years or so that I realised I HAD to follow my heart as far as possible and live each day as close to my ideal as possible. No goal except to keep my family healthy and myself for the kids' sake naturally. Thankfully I never saw the point of pleasing or approval seeking from others for the sake of it. Two of my favoruite words come to mind reading this post, True and Authentic xx

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  20. Yes! I'm one of us!!!
    You could totally be describing yourself when you described Julian Cope!! Beautifully written post, and sums me up really well...it's very confusing to the general public when you don't follow the prescribed paths! It is, however, more common to drop out in NZ, I suspect, than most countries. The West Coast of the South Island is a haven for people like us, but ones who prefer a quieter life...G and I are seriously thinking about escaping down South at some point.
    If you can't please yourself, there is no way you can please anyone else, and it's a rare person who understands that!!! YAY for you, my darling! You lead a meaningful life, AND you're gorgeous and amusing and clever and you exude happiness!!!
    Love Helga xxxXXXxxx

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  21. My goodness, sometimes I feel badly for being the under-achiever that I have become. My former self wouldn't even recognize me now. But, heck to I love a more simple lifestyle, where the small joys are noticed and appreciated.

    I've said it before and I'll say it again, you Vix (and Jon), are such inspiring people. Particularly since you don't keep a wish-list from which to tick items off.

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  22. I guess being an underachiever rocks then? Glad to see my little French darlings find friends on the wall of misery. I need to post a photo of the lady I bought at the same car boot. She was unfortunately too lovely (and too big) to send, and she has found a place in my crazy home. I feel exactly like you do about work. It comes back to the question whether you live to work or work to live, and if you can find work that suits your way of living, well that's just the best fortune ever!

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  23. Absolutely cracking post, Vix - loved every word! xx

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  24. Being a typical indecisive Libran I think I sway between over achievement and under achievement. I definitely have a list of things I want to do (which certainly doesn't include skydiving, bungee jumping or juggling) but I don't seek to impress anyone with them, they are purely things I want to experience for me. I think that's the problem, when people just want to impress others. Xx

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  25. Meeting you in person is on my bucket list, Vix, and I don't care if that makes me a loser. I love your "underacheivements" to me they are most wonderful and ambitious- to be true to yourself and good to others is an aim I wish more took time to shoot for. Hugs. And you rock.

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  26. Oh Vix this is such a lovely post! x

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  27. I'm definately one of you. Bucket lists are not for me either. Spending hours thinking about what I'm going to do isn't my scene, just bloody do it. On a desert island I would build a shelter and look for something to eat.

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  28. You're my hero!
    Though I think you achieve a bloody lot for an "underachiever"!
    And I love that pale blue dress - looks fab with the brown boots!

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  29. I'm an under-achiever then! And I feel better about that today thanks to this post. Xxx

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  30. I'm totally with you on all of the above, I've been a lot happier since I started living the way I want to and stopped worrying what anyone thought. As long as you're doing no harm you're doing well, in my book.

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  31. Lovely vix you could have been describing me also I have the same out look on life as you do. I am happy in my own skin and just being me. Simple things in life are best. I have spent the day at home with my dogs and sat crocheting in the garden its been simple and peaceful and stressfree :-) have a great few days, dee xxxx

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  32. Honestly, Vix, you're such a slacker. Get a bloody proper job and some new clobber, why don't you? If you monetised your blog, you could have a ton of sponsors and freebies, you could be your own brand, you need to pull your finger out, love.
    Hahahahahahaha!

    Oh how I love this post and everything in it. I love it when you're on one! I love seeing you looking sooooo beautiful in secondhand gifts from blogger pals, and seeing your fabulous home, so uniquely individual, not copying some fashion or interiors magazine. I love that you aren't interested in anyone's expectations but your own, that you stay true and don't sell yourself to the highest-bidding sponsor or the biggest freebie. You know exactly what you need in life to function ethically and economically, and to be happy. It takes real insight and skill to make that happen. Keep doing it, it's working, darling!
    Oh and fabulous frocks too!
    Love you! xxxxx

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  33. Ditto to everything you said! I feel sad for people who make "bucket lists", if you don't finish the list are your a total loser? I, on the other hand, am happy to do whatever comes along. I sort of fell into my job( in 1993!) don't make much $$$, but really love the students and making all kinds of fun stuff. I worked in an office years ago and hated it. Once a hippie, always a hippie, I guess.

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  34. I earn around half what I did five years ago and am happier than ever. So true what you said.

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  35. Oooo I hear you, I am a square peg in around hole and always have been.
    10 years ago I had a well paid career and was totally miserable, once I decided I didn't give a knacker what others think, had Twiglet and chucked my job in, I felt like me finally !!
    Good on ya!!
    Twiggy x

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  36. To be honest, how other folks live their life is none of my business - unless they make it my business by trying to tell me how I should go about living mine.

    It seems to wind some folks up something rotten when you don't conform to 'norms'. And that is why I'm happy living in a world of my own. Which by all accounts is a childish and transgressive way to live (how dare I not want what 'normal' people want lol).

    Do do that that voodoo that you do so well :) Carry on, lovely .....

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  37. I think pretty much every single bit of this resonates with me to some degree, except the fact that I seem to have hitched myself to an overachieving bloke who will never stop reaching for the stars. Kid dreams big, so I just hold his hand and hope for the best, while we hold our breath and leap off cliffs and out of planes (metaphorically, although i did skydive and bungee as a dopey youth).

    Meanwhile I am so happy that this small corner of the blogging world still exists where friendship and connections and fun matters more than bucks. Thank you for being you, lady!

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  38. Yay for you Vix! Great post and quite true. You don't need a bucket list; you manage to look exceptionally beautiful while being articulate, intelligent and inspiring - it doesn't get much better xx

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  39. I really do think you have it all ok almost all figured out. To me happiness in life comes from real connections with people and adventures, not stuff, although I do like my stuff:) I don't chase crap other people tell me is in or that I need to have to show some level of success. I think you project a women confident with who she is and you are so dam lovable! You look as though you below on a beach hammock with a big fruity drink in your hand. Don't ever go changing Vix I love you to pieces. Let's talk next week for sure!
    Have fun and sell sell sell :)
    LOVEYOU!!!!
    XXOOXX

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  40. Hi Vix! I don't think I ever posted here before but love your blog! I agree with everything you said and you are an inspiration. I was in a job for so many years that I hated. I don't know why I stuck with it. It stressed me out considerably and it took years to even make decent money at it. Love the way you decorated your home and live your life. Good for you! Don't ever stop doing what you love. Totally love your attitude.

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  41. I am one of you. If I had my druthers I'd live in a shabby, but affordable cottage by a lake. Thanks to a 6 year plan I've just finished paying off a huge load of debt, including my student loan.

    I've been saving up for a much awaited shopping trip to Minnieapolis with my stylist. I'm going to enjoy every second!

    Once our litter is grown and gone, my fabulous beau and I will enjoy life in that cottage by the lake. I will probably work part-time, not because I have to, but because I want to.

    Being financially responsible and creative with what you have means happier life options.


    Keep on thrifting!

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  42. I sooo love you! You are such an inspiration for the vintage lifestyle! :)

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  43. Thank you for this touching, heartfelt post, Vix. Looks like you're in excellent company here; count me in too.

    I don't consider you an "underachiever" but instead as one who's gotten down with what's real in life and is living each day to its fullest. You're an inspiration... and you look particularly gorgeous today as well!

    xxx

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  44. I would be quite happy alone on an island. You so impress me with your obvious contentment. That's truly "achieving". Lucky you. I love that dress.

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  45. But could I whore my wrist for world domination and still be your friend? I suppose that when my world simply revolves around my own head, I already have world domination anyway, so no whoring required. There are no steps on my ladder and if there were I'd only use them for photo ops. You are my kind of woman. I don't walk the straight and narrow, it's more wibbly and wonky, but I love finding out what's around every curve and having the freedom to see. Ooo, we must bottle your attitude and sell it for gazillions of dollars! Wheeee!!!!

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  46. You're so BOSS. And I like that little Hawaiian dress.

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  47. Fantastic post! I truly believe in being happy for the sake of it and/or living your life so that you are always happy and not dependant on money or career to do that for you.

    I had a career in mind which I studied for and did well at until I was made redundant. I had to go back to a admin job which most people would see as a step down the ladder, but if anything I am happier doing this job and being paid enough to buy fabric, go out and still save. I think living within your means is a big deal and those who push too hard to TRY to be happy wont realise how unhappy they might be till its too late to enjoy all that they worked so hard for.

    All I need is my sewing machine, by boy, my kitty and roof over my head and some yummy food. I've come to realise that is more important then a big car or house or having ALL THE THINGS!

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  48. I have pottered since I was 25 ,before that I had a job I hated.

    One day I threw it all in moved to France (couldn't speak the language) did odd jobs for a year then met my husband .

    we have a 21 year old daughter.

    I teach kids English in my kitchen,I sew,knit , cook , mess around,I do my own thing.

    People in my little town looked at me a bit strange as their needs are not mine.
    .

    We have a garden full of veggies that I am preparing for the winter.

    During the holidays I'v made a jumper for dd ,a cardi for me, a folded paper clutch bag ,2 sunburst mirrors ,read lots and had a great time.

    Next week is party time ,we will invite friends ,then extended family, then more friends.

    What more could I want? Liz2b

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  49. Amen! I subscribe to every word... especially 'No sodding bucket lists, people-pleasing or whoring your arse for world domination'... my daily mantra. Long live the appreciation of what IS. xoxo

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  50. P.S. And you look all the better for it! X

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  51. Beautifully put, but you're preaching to the choir! We're behind you all the way.

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  52. This post actually makes me feel a bit teary Vix, and so happy I know a bunch of people on the same wavelength as me, because there's so many people out there who just don't get it, and think we are under achievers, wasters, maybe feel a bit sorry for us, not realising we just don't want what they want! I wish I could have been there to hear Julian Cope, I've always found him such an interesting character, and I loved his autobiographies. I lent them to a friend and she thought he came across as a bit of an arsehole and I was like, but he's ok with being a bit of an arsehole, he acknowledges it, whereas so many people are terrified to let anyone see their arseholiness, I feel like he's happy to admit to mess ups and foolishness, and I much prefer that to someone who has to appear perfect and can't admit to any flaws in themselves. I've probably gone a bit off the point now but you've got my brain going and I could ramble on for ages. Great post Vix! xx

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  53. I've always done things my way, conforming has never even occurred to me and it would have made my life a whole lot simpler had I done so.
    I don't understand the need to do things just because it's what's expected and to have to have a label put upon yourself in order to exist, well I don't understand that either.

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  54. Boring? You?! Never!!

    I love your ethos, you inspire me to be me, not give a damn about what other people think and to do what I love doing and what makes me happy.

    Lxx

    http://the-sportista.blogspot.co.uk/

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  55. such a cute dress, and wonderful boots and belt

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  56. WORD! Every single word in your post could come directly out of my mouth. Love your attitude. It's important to live your own possibilities and achiving the goals YOU set for YOURSELF and your own happiness.

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  57. One day I hope that I get to meet you for real. You are so wise, humble, and of course ... stylish! When my husband and I met in autumn 1995, we snuck off to a town a few mil away. There, he bought a solo album by Julian Cope!

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  58. I adore you and Julian Cope and everyone who follow a personal path.
    I try to live my life even if I'm unconventional for my own family and people, just as it comes and trying to do what I love. When I started a blog I wanted to share my opinions and write about my taste and meeting you and the other friends online was a really unespected gift. You are a muse and a constant source of inspiration for me and for all your readers, friends and fans.
    Keep on rockin'!
    All my love xxxxxx

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  59. A woman after my own heart :)

    One of you fo sho.

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  60. Amen :)

    I am so tired of the pro-bloggers. I nearly strayed for a while but now turn down the offers of freebies as there's rarely anything I am truely interested in.

    Have a fab weekend festivally - I shall be heading off in a while for my own weekend of fun :)

    Mr Cope - daft as a box of badgers - totally agree with him on the U2 front.

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  61. Well said, as ever, Vix :-)
    I think people who measure their achievements by material goods are very sad indeed. I'll take a full yet simple life, filled with good friendships and happy memories over a big fancy job title, posh car and mansion any day. I work hard but only to fund my travels... I live in a modest home, drive a rubbish car and only buy what we need, as I would rather see the world and meet her people than anything else....

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  62. From what I see in your blog, I think you have a wonderful life, and I have such admiration for the choices you've made that have allowed you to live a debt-free, adventurous, soul-nurturing life. I have not been so wise in my choices so I will continue to work 9 - 5 to try to pay off debt, but women like you inspire me to stay true to myself, and live the life that makes me happy, not the one that my Mother, co-workers, or society thinks I should be living.

    I love Krista's comment about happiness coming from adventures and connections with people, not stuff (although I like my stuff too!). The connections I have made through my blog provide more joy than any amount of stuff could.

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  63. You have a great attitude and control over your life, and that is the best definition of success!

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  64. This is the reason you are my favorite blogger! I love, especially, that all of your posts are so upbeat. Keep on rockin' in the blog-world!

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  65. Too many people grind themselves down for the wrong things.

    I must say I don't think I'm an underachiever - I'm more a workaholic. I'm quite a driven and 'hardworking' person - honestly, I wouldn't describe myself as chilled (!!), but I've never thought "oh, I should use this to MAKE MONEY and IMPRESS PEOPLE" and I just don't get people who would. I do what I do because I genuinely enjoy it and enjoy helping people. People have honestly said to me "Why don't you [work for a bank/law firm] if you can?" Well, because doing a miserable, morally dodgy job just for prestige would be hell on too many levels. But for so many people it's shocking that I've chosen to work in the 'caring sector' as they see it as 'lower'. It makes me sad.

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  66. That was an inspiring post. Simple living is always best.I look forward to having a simple little life of my own someday.

    Vintagehoneybee.blogspot.com

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  67. Eloquently put as always. With you and Julian all the way. Enjoy Upton festival. It looks a laugh. We were at their free blues festival in July. Xx

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  68. You sound very wise and content to me, Vix. I'm currently in the rut you were in formerly regarding the job and depression. Part of it is due to spending more than I have earned for most of my life, and I don't even own a home. Sadly, I am not enjoying my life at all, and I'm approaching 50.

    Love you much,

    SB

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  69. My heart wants to live as you do but I am still caught up in the aftermath of spending most of my life acquiring things and all the details. I would have to sell out to get out at this point, but I am still raising my daughters by myself, so I can't move to the Georgia mountains and live off the land with my chickens like in my fantasies (just yet). I am guilty of the wishlist thing but let me explain... :-) I love to post photos of things I can't have at the moment because sometimes they eventually make their way to me, if that is what is supposed to be... some high fashion is so beautiful (shoes!) and putting them on my blog is like putting them in my jewelry box. I view high fashion like art because some of those that create it have such genius. But I can definitely appreciate what you are saying here. As beautiful as all this art is, it comes at a cost. The cost can feel like shackles sometimes. And when we feel strapped, we then look at the source of the shackles and convince ourselves it is worth it. So the cycle continues and it is difficult to escape from. I have much respect for you and your unique freedom. xo

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  71. Hi my dear!! (Sorry, deleted above post, too many spelling mistakes!) Another excellent post and like you I can say I am now one of life's underachievers-and loving it!! I barely spend now week to week-all the bills get paid and if I feel like treating myself to some boot sale or charity shop bargains then I do-for around a tenner a week you know that goes a long way, hehe!! I've been volunteering at my local library this summer and it's the nicest job I've done for ages-being paid loads to be in a horrid job is sad for people who are stuck in that position, but thankfully I hope never to be in it as I get older. Love the simple things now like reading, walking, the occasional trip to the pub, the boot sales and blogging-all is good, thankfully. So pleased that you are Jon continue to love and lead the life you do, it gives a good peace of mind not to constantly covet or want material stuff xxx

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  72. Yours is the first blog I read every day - and if you haven't updated, my day just isn't quite right! Please keep blogging just as you are. Loving you from the USA.

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  73. Vix, this is a fantastic post! I agree with every word.

    I see CityScape has already referred to them, but if you haven't read them, check out the Archdrude's autobiographies. Really interesting reading.

    And your Hawaiian dress is just gorgeous. By the way, I just adore my Kinky Melon Hilo Hattie dress!

    Annie xxx

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  74. Have a great weekend. Must say firstly I absolutely love that bed, it's gorgeous. I love you the way you are, not that you're going to change. I must stop buying crap and take a leaf out of your book. Obviously you know all the crap buy usually costs about £5 each, but there's a lot of it. I do love Vogue though. I love that ethereal dress, beautiful blue. Oooh those boots again! Love them! Xxx

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  75. i love the outfit so much
    Boots and dress are the perfect combination!
    Happy festival Vix!

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  77. Love this and love you Vix for just being yourself. Only just realised tonight that I have that exact same feeling and attitude to life, well maybe not exact 100% because that would be strange.
    Being someone who's always gone with the flow and not strived to be in the limelight I too have escaped a very destructive and depressing (for me) career. For the first time in a long time I feel alive.
    Also really want to go to India...hope it will happen soon.

    Xx

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  78. Vix, your happiness with who you are comes through in your blog. I think anyone who keeps up with you can feel it. Despite not having a huge life plan, as you say, it's lovely that you know who you are and what you want. I, too, value the real friendships that have come from blogging!

    XOXO
    Lynn

    PS -- That pastel dress is beautiful on you!

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  79. Why aren't there more of you on this planet? x

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  80. Such an inspirational blog post.

    A lady after my own heart : )

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  81. Very sweet photos in your blog. Really innovative ideas that made my day. I was feeling much eager prior to reading your content for a long time and this time, I really feel lucky enough to find the best approach from your side.

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  82. Ah, this is why we all adore you Vix. You're an inspiration.
    Oh, and my mum knows my taste very well indeed - I adore the dress she bought from you to give me, and I've finally taken photos of it.

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  83. I so much adore you for what you are! That apart, you never cease to amuse me with your clothes & your very inspiring words ! That dress is looking gorgeous on you.Enjoy the festival.

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  84. Vix, I admire you on so many levels. This post says it all. You are the perfect example of living each and every moment for its gifts, and in the process shower us all with your splendor. I am privileged to have met you in this medium, and your dress is more beautiful than words can describe.

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  85. Being glad to be alive sounds pretty awesome to me.

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  86. Yet another inspiring and insightful post, Vix! I heartily agree with your points xxx

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  87. Always be yourself and live life as if we aren't promised tomorrow, that's always been my motto. Smashing outfit! x/Madison

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  88. it's official. I'm in love with you. HEEHEEHEE!!

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  89. I've never understood the desire for world domination. It all sounds like such hard work. I'm far too lazy. And as for bungee jumping or parachuting out of a plane. Not in a million years. I have exactly the same attitude to money. But I am a daydreamer: it's a cabin in a forest for me. And I always want to travel.

    The great thing is that you know exactly what suits you and you have it and are happy with it. That's the secret of a happy life and what so many of us admire about you.

    Your hawaiian dress is gorgeous on you. You inspire people to find the most wonderful gifts, because you do them such wonderful justice. Hope you are having a lovely time at that festival selling out of stock in your micro business. xxxxxx

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  90. So inspiring. I'm encouraged as I continue to unclutter my life and just do me! I feel free since I passed the collectibles and originals to the children. A great read Vix, thank you.

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  91. I must be an underacheiver too because I already know how to turn sea water into drinking water, just so I'm ready for my desert island moment. I just hope I manage to get stranded with a lidded saucepan, matches and a pyrex bowl or I'm buggered.
    The brown dress behind you is so beautiful! xxx

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  92. As much as I love second hand shopping, sewing, patchwork, music festivals and travel pictures this right here is the reason I read your blog!! Sometimes I'm filled with doubt as to whether I'm living my life the "right" way - but when I read your blog I think well I can only be myself and I will be miserable pretending to be someone else, trying to live up to others expectations. You are awesome Vix - thanks so much for this post!

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  93. Inspiring & encouraging!
    I'm a definite underachiever - I get asked if I feel I wasted my education. It used to bother me, but now it doesn't. I realise most people are talking about money & not life when they say that.
    Love the dress & boots.xx

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  94. I forgot how beautiful you are inside out.
    I am also:
    a person who doesn't give a toss about making it big, remaining true to who they are and living each day as it comes.
    I am back from the wild.
    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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  95. Wow, I am nearly in tears reading your post. You sum up what most people don't realise is what they should be aspiring to live like. I just want to live in peace, not constant worry about bills or a keeping up with the Jones, although not worrying about my leaking kitchen roof would be a bonus. Its funny your first picture of you in your bedroom. A lot of people pay fortunes to get the houses designed like this but yours is designed with love and living within your means. Here's to being an underachiever! xx

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  96. And THAT'S why I love you!!!!!!!!!! So, you said something about sharing? How 'bout those bracelets?!!

    Have a glorious weekend. You are absolutely one of the very best. :-)

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  97. Honestly, i don't have the life i'm happy with. I'm in a miserable stressful mentally draining job and have managed to become so dependant on it because it was "the right thing to do" or what was expected of me...that being said i just turned 35 and thought screw this! With the support of my gorgeous other half i'm now persuing my dreams of self enployment...i dont want to be a millionaire, i just want to be unstressed, and not have to do a job i either hate and take orders to do things i dont agree with! Reading this post has made me realise that its totally possible :) thanks!

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  98. Oh my goodness - bucket lists. I first came across them on the internet, not in real life. What a strange idea. And they always include globetrotting and dangerous sports!

    Thanks for the breath of fresh air. Being a word-obsessed person, not sure I agree with the under/over achiever concept - are you -and I - I not still an over achiever, given that I have broken from other's expectations and am doing just what I like? Anyways.

    If only people could just do what they wanted to do, rather than following some strange ideal - and then trying to make other people feel bad for doing their own thing...

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  99. VV, I just adore you. I had a dire start in life and I now have lived within my means, saved and live in a thrifty way. I have more than I ever thought I would during my unhappy childhood.

    I hate the idea of 'bucket lists' and so much of what you have written. There is nothing like great unhappiness for making one appreciate happiness when it comes.

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  100. Definitely wouldn't want you to change. Love you and your blog just the way it is! Here's to being happy.

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  101. Lovely words from a lovely woman!

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  102. Lovely words from a lovely lady!

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  103. Is it just me or is your waist getting tinier? Love the jazzy bed and the hangings too!

    xo

    Shubhi!

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  104. thank you so much for this incredibly great post.
    right now i'm working on a life plan which should help me to create a life without the usual big life plan. ;)
    i just wanna live my life as i like it. creating this world isn't that easy.

    i totally admire your and Jon's way of living. well done!

    good luck with kinky melon at upton festival. have fun and good sales!

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  105. Underachievers are the ones with the right work/life balance if you ask me, I count myself as one amongst you lovely people! You look so beautiful in that darling dress dear Vix.

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  106. You have a beautiful life don't ever change a thing xoxo Heather

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  107. I love your attitude and the 'if you want it just shut up and save' approach. Brilliant. And Teardrop Explodes in Manchester was the first gig I ever went to!

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  108. Great post and I love your outfit. I love vintage, anything!

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  109. You have just written my retirement manifesto! We love you as you are. In fact, I aspire to lead the life you do...end of confession.

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  110. I would just lay on the beach & swim if I were stranded on an island. Forget high paying corporate jobs...too much stress. All the sayings are true...money can't buy happiness. You are smart to do what you love.

    Looking pretty in that blue dress & I love the boots! XXX

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  111. Vix, love your blog and your wise words. Too many 20 year olds are so busy showing off, with look at me antics and boring blogs. Good on you sister.

    Julie Q

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  112. What a fabulous post Vix. True to who you are and it shows in happy both you and Jon are.

    Thanks for sharing hun.

    X x

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  113. I really loved this post as I love almost everyone of yours if not all of them. You are so easy to read and when my brain fog is on the attack that is hard to find.

    I like the way you think and love the Hawaiian dress

    hope your well

    XOXO

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  114. i bloody love this post. Everything you said is so totally and utterly true. From experience, I can say that having had the high flying career and the money that went with it (which was nice) and the stress as well (which wasn't) to be where I am now, with my "little job" as I know some call it, but being able to be home lots with my kiddos, to be able to do what I want, well, it's the happiest I've been in my entire adult life. Yes, we have to live simply/frugally and be aware of what we spend in a way we didn't when I was doing "the other job" but far rather that and enjoy the things we do than have plenty of cash and no life/time to enjoy. You and your life rocks and is an example to us all. I only hope that I pass this attitude onto my kiddos so they know they can be whatever they want to be, but if they don't want to be, then that is a wonderful thing too.

    PS that dress. Oh, I love it.

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  115. Loved this post Vix. I turn 30 on tuesday and I've been having mixed feelings about it! But this has made me re-think feeling sad about getting older, I've decided I don't care about it, I'm going to drink a jaegerbomb and enjoy myself!

    much love xxxxxx

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  116. I love your blog and your honesty! Thank you for sharing about your past and decisions relating to career etc. I have left my job(11 years teaching in secondary school which has left me shattered!). I've decided to take charge of things and try and have a better, happier, healthier life. Your posts have inspired me and shown me that you don't have to be a slave to a job you hate! I start my new job on Monday and can't wait! P.S...love your outfits! xx

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  117. Love this post.
    Add me & my husband to those who agree wholeheartedly with you. Delighted to find so many like-minded commenters too!
    Sometimes it feels like everyone around us (including, sadly, some close friends) IS fixated on frantic spending, moving up the "property ladder" and whizzing round ticking exotic destinations/activities off their lists.
    So it was lovely to find at least one little corner of the world thinking like us!

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  118. loved reading this post.
    and now I'm going to go and read some more.
    what a lovely blog, wish I'd found it before

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  119. That Hawaiian frock is absolutely GORGEOUS and SO ARE YOU! That wall of misery is almost a room of misery!

    Love you more than all the loose leaf tea in CHina!

    Sarah xxx

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  120. That Hawaiian frock is absolutely GORGEOUS and SO ARE YOU! That wall of misery is almost a room of misery!

    Love you more than all the loose leaf tea in CHina!

    Sarah xxx

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